What Pisses Me Off About Marriage

You know what pisses me off the most about marriage? The lack of sexual attraction between spouses. It has been made painfully clear that the man will only get sex when the woman wants it. Which, I have to say, is understandable. I mean, have you ever had sex when you didn't want it? It is boring and not enjoyable by either party. But the problem I have with marriages doesn't stem from the lack of sex alone, it is lack of sexual interest and the prioritization of both parties.

Where and when did women decide that marriage was a sole justification to deprive sex from their husband? I have heard many things like: "We are married now, I don't have to have sex with you as much anymore." and "I don't feel like it go masturbate for all I care just get away from me." and my personal favorite, "I don't have to pursue you anymore, I don't have to impress you anymore, sex is something on my discretion only and I don't care how you feel about it."

Talk about selfish huh?

Women, in general, do this to their husbands. They go do whatever they want during the day and then at night find whatever reason they can to not have sex with their husbands. I know this is heavily biased, but there is no reason for a woman to deny her husband simply because she doesn't feel like it having sex.

Perhaps women don't know how this affects their husbands. Well I will give you a little hint, it hurts. Perhaps more so than anything else you can do. Let me lay a little bit of education on you women. Men exemplify their love for you physically. The way our love conveys itself is through our actions and the ultimate form of this expression is sexually exhibited. Most of us, will do small things for you to show how much we care but during sex we want to show you all of how we feel about you. It is more emotionally linked than any woman will ever admit. To them, the man just wants sex. To us, we want to show you how much we love you. To the men who constantly show you, the woman, how much he cares about you it is only proper for you to return the favor.

And what is with this not pursuing you anymore crap? Since when does being married mean that you stop pursuing an intimate relationship with each other? That is utter bullshit (pardon the language). It is perhaps more important to pursue each other after the marriage than it ever was before the marriage. You have years ahead of you, that means you are going to have to learn to love to be with each other.

Intimacy is perhaps the main reason why marriages fall apart. The husband offers his affection and the woman rejects him. The woman wants an emotional connection and the husband rejects them. Women want the emotional and psychological link while the husbands want the physical and emotional link. The thing is one party has to give in order for any gesture is given back. One can only give so much until they feel they can't give anymore. If you as a man are constantly meeting your wife's needs and she isn't returning the favor it is time for a heart to heart talk. Expect it to get ugly real fast. She is going to place herself on a higher pedestal than you and you are going to have to nicely knock her off it and vice versa with women who need to talk to their husbands about this sort of thing.

Point and case, sexual intimacy is a very vital component of a successful marriage. If you deprive each other of this aspect you are literally asking to become divorced.